those of you that follow me on twitter, instagram or are friends with me on facebook already know my big news… but I wanted to share my side of the story here with you as well! if you’re interested to read Kurt’s side of the news, he has shared it here on his blog!
the months of June and July were such a blur… in between long nights at the office, what seemed like weeks of traveling for work, trips to Pennsylvania and Illinois to see both of our families, and starting to prepare for Kurt to leave for Vienna, there didn’t seem to be enough time to enjoy together before Kurt left. we knew that this was going to happen, and we had tried to prepare for it the best we could, but we both could feel our time slipping away more quickly than we wanted it to.
back in May, we went to the wedding of one of my coworkers. it was a beautiful day, full of love and energy and promise for new beginnings. on the drive home from that wedding, Kurt said to me, “I just need to say that I want to marry you someday.” we had been joking about it for a couple of weeks already, skirting around the topic without actually declaring our intentions. but him saying it to me in the car made it so real, and I was so excited for that possibility. a couple of days later we were talking again about our future and he told me that while he would have loved to propose to me before leaving for Vienna, he just didn’t think it was going to be possible. I completely understood; it’s a big decision that can take time to completely finalize. we left the topic alone in the days following, and I was completely ok knowing that someday we would take that step.
about a week later, I came home from work to find Kurt SO excited about something – a secret that he wouldn’t tell me. for about six weeks he toyed with me, giving me hints about this secret, but never giving me enough information to truly figure out what it was. I was stumped, and at times a little frustrated, because I wanted to know what was making him so happy! I had to wait until July 16 to find out the secret – and it was the best sort of surprise I could have ever hoped for.
here’s where things get good – what I didn’t know was that a couple of days after Kurt and I talked about the proposal not happening before he left for Vienna, Kurt shared this conversation with his mom. they talked about our future and how scared I was about being apart for eleven months (which was extremely true at the time… now, not as much). and she let him know of a secret – Kurt’s grandparents had in their possession his great-grandmother’s wedding ring. together, Kurt and his mom talked with his grandparents and asked their permission for him to propose to me, using this ring. they happily said yes!
his great-grandmother’s ring
so the secret that he kept from me was the one thing I never suspected because of the prior conversations we had. I told my friends this and some of them laughed at just how dense I was – which is true I suppose! but I am glad that I didn’t suspect what was actually going to happen – being completely surprised is exactly what I wanted to happen. and Kurt knew that.
so on July 16, Kurt dropped off for me a surprise at my desk when I was out at a lunch meeting; a hand-colored map and written directions to a secret location where he would be waiting for me after work. I actually put off opening the little parcel he had left for me because I didn’t want to be tempted to try and figure out where the secret location was going to be! and I am so glad that I did, because walking through the grounds of the IMA and finding him in this secret garden was one of the most wonderful and exciting journeys I’ve had.
the path I walked to join him in the secret garden
when I arrived and walked up the stairs to the garden, he was waiting for me on a bench. it was the hottest day of the summer at that point, and both of us were sweaty and sticky. but we were both smiling so big when we saw each other. I joined him on the bench and we started talking, mostly about nothing, just enjoying that we were together. after a little bit, he asked me which part of the secret I wanted to know first, to which I replied, “all of it!” he began revealing all of the pieces that I didn’t know – that my family and his family all knew, and that he had been working on this for weeks with his mom, and that when we had been home to visit my family a couple of weeks ago he had shared his intentions and asked for their blessing to move forward. I could see how nervous and excited he was to share this moment with me, and I remember feeling excited and extremely nervous myself. as I mentioned earlier, up until that point, I had been so scared about being apart for eleven months. Kurt knew this, and while we were sitting on this bench together he shared with me that the reason he hadn’t been as scared as I had been the past few weeks was because he knew that he was going to give me something that would solidify our relationship. and after he shared that, he was down on one knee before I even knew what was happening with the ring in his hand proposing to me!
so, this summer among all of the crazy work days and long travel days and time spent worrying about the future, Kurt found a way to ease my fears and show me that what we have is exactly what he wants. and it is exactly what I want. being engaged is such a wonderful feeling – and it has made the first three weeks of our time apart a little bit easier because I know where we stand and a little bit of what our future holds.
together for one last weekend before he left